Spreading The Truth One Byte At A Time
By Ron Bender© 2008, 2013
People get angry in different ways. You may raise your voice. Or react with harsh words. Or gossip negatively about someone. Or carry resentment. Or stonewall someone who has offended you. Or get depressed.
We get angry when our will is crossed, when we don’t get what we want. Anger is not bad; it’s like a headache that alerts us that something is wrong and needs attention. So if we are wise then we deal with the underlying problem – and hopefully that frees us of our anger headache!
It’s always helpful to be aware of all our emotions, including anger. If you have trouble feeling angry then that is a problem just as much being easily angered or resentful is a problem. The key is how you and I deal with our anger.
How the Psalmist is at Peace
The Psalmist shows us how to deal with anger. For instance, a typical example is when David prays in Psalm 35: “Contend, O Lord, with those who contend with me” (verse 1). He verbalizes his anger to God and entrusts justice to God. And he takes up his shield – he sets his boundaries of protection (verse 2).
Honesty. Submission to God. Boundaries.
This is the way to deal with anger. This is way that the Psalmist is at peace. Peace. What a gift it is to be at peace! And true peace – God’s kind of peace – is demonstrated in the midst of conflict and stress.
Let’s Work on Your Anger
Perhaps you grew up in a home where anger was not dealt with in healthy and loving ways? If you’ve carried this forward then you’re probably having trouble in your relationships. I’d like to help you to grow the peace of the Psalmist…
Think of a situation in which you are prone to react in anger or to stuff your anger…
Maybe it’s when a friend hurts your feelings, someone criticizes you, your child disobeys you, you make a mistake, or your driving your car and you get cut off…
Imagine yourself in that stressful situation and then pray with the Psalmist…
Contend, O Lord, with those who contend with me…
Take up shield and buckler;
Arise and come to my aid…
Say to my soul, “I am your salvation”…
Then my soul will rejoice in the Lord
And delight in his salvation.
My whole being will exclaim,
“Who is like you, O Lord?” (Psalm 35:1-3, 9-10).
When you pray this way you’re submitting your will and your desire for justice to the Sovereign Lord. You’re stepping out of trying to make your life what you want it to be and instead placing yourself in the kingdom of God. You’re defining yourself (setting your boundaries) based on God’s righteousness, not your desires.
If you practice praying honestly and submitting to God in this way before you are mistreated then God’s peace will work it’s way into you and it will begin to govern you and define you so that you don’t react or implode with anger.
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