Bender Bylines:   By  Ron  Bender,  President /CEO.  Bender Consulting   "A Real Man Never Hits a Women" December 2010


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A Real Man Never Hits A Woman


It never seizes to amaze what we believe. Some people will believe just about anything toget what they want or what they think they want. I have befriended criminals, addicts, sex offenders, and many other people that society has condemned. Yet there is one thing that still turns my stomach every time I it happens, when a Man hits a woman. I have heard many of the excuses.

“Oh she deserved it”

“She knows I love her when I do it”

“This is what a Man does. We control our women”

“It’s My Business”

There is nothing more repulsive to me than when a man decides he has the right to hit a woman. That somehow it is OK. We have started to address bullies in the school and we all realize that when it is our child that is being bullied we need to do something. It is not right. Somehow we see the women as an adult and we turn the other way. We say “She can walk out.” or “Maybe it’s her fault.” But the truth of the matter is not that simple. We need to understand that violence can come in many forms and many times ever so slowly that we don’t see it coming. This is why we need to be alert looking for the signs and symptoms of abuse. Caught early and dealt with can save not only the victim but also the abuser if they are ready to confront themselves.

It may not be easy to identify domesticviolence at first. While some relationships are clearly abusive from the outset, abuse often starts subtly and gets worse over time. You may be experiencing domestic violence if you're in a relationship with someone who:

  • Calls you names, insults you or puts you down
  • Prevents you from going to work or school
  • Stops you from seeing family members or friends
  • Tries to control how you spend money, where you go or what you wear
  • Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
  • Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
  • Threatens you with violence or a weapon
  • Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets
  • Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will
  • Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it


Your partner apologizes and says the hurtful behavior won't happen again — but you fear it will. At times you wonder whether you're imagining the abuse, yet the emotional or physical pain you feel is real. If this sounds familiar, you may be experiencing domestic violence.



Verbal Abuse Is Just As Damaging as Physical Abuse

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